Remember when you were younger? When a relationship would end and you’d be heartbroken? Not the kind like you are now, but the kind when you listen to EVERY. SINGLE. SAD. SONG? And maybe even now, you listen to Adele, and you think, “yes, I deserve more and I’m gonna find someone like you.” so on and so forth. And you listen to Bonnie Raitt sing that she can’t make someone love her if they don’t. You feel it in your soul and it’s like they’re singing your song.
Keep that all in mind, but shift your focus. What do you think the man on the receiving end of Bonnie Raitt’s sorrow feels? I’ll give you a minute.
Don’t you think that it’s possible that this guy is wracked with guilt & pain over causing someone they love pain? That despite every wish, they’ve moved on (because what else can he do) and it can’t be helped?
It’s possible that on the receiving end of that pain & suffering, someone else is suffering too. That person weeps and holds their ribs because it physically hurts to not be able to give that person what they want. To not be able to love someone the way they wish they could.
Think about it for a minute. Imagine saying the words, “I won’t ever be your cornerstone”. Think of saying those words to someone who is pouring their heart out to you and despite this they can’t feel something their heart won’t let them.
Sometimes all you want to do is love someone the way they want to be loved. You want to be able to give them what they want (even if it may not be what they need). You hurt and ache and suffer and wish for everything to be different. But it’s just not.
It can’t be.
they’d better be wracked with pain. all I’m sayin, yo.
Oh, I am. Everyday.
It’s all about perspective! this is a great post. Thanks for the reminder that there is always “the other side of the story”
I never really thought about the other side to the story until I was on it.
This is a great post. I went through this not too long ago, and felt exactly as you’ve described. As much as it sucks to be on the receiving end, it’s awful to be the one ending it, too.
Thank you my dear friend. It’s definitely not the most fun and it just hit me like a ton of bricks.
Man, who cares about that person. They just dumped you!
No really, good post. There are both sides to every story, right?
Well, actually I’M the person on the other side. But I’ve been the dumped one too.
I actually read this post a few days ago, and I haven’t stopped thinking about. What an incredible perspective. Anyway, big hugs to you.
Always been a fan of multiple perspectives; great stuff
Beautiful and heart-wrenching post, DJ! xoxo